Hi to all sandy's friends,
Sandy had some really bad news tonight, his partner of 26 years suffered a massive heart attack tonight,while away in jo burgh, Sandy at home now trying to get some sleep ready for hopefully better news in the morning, Im sure he wont mind me sharing this with all of you as the more prayers we can all join in the better for them both. He will be going off to Jo burg as soon as he can, so im sure you will all want to wish him well, send them our love and pray for them.
Bev Coatesxx
Sadly john didnt make it through the night and passed away at 3 am..what can i say ....will give sandy everyones love.
Bev xx
Thanks for letting us know Bev,
Sandy, I know that we are all scattered around the globe, but rest assured if we were near you two at the moment we would do everything we could to help. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this time, and we hope you both fare well. If you need to talk, we are here.
Love and support from the entire Alexander Clan!
:)
SAndy and partner
strength to you both
prayers and thought with you
we'll be here if you need us..............Barbara
Sandy, our thoughts are with you over this trying time. God bless you both.
Dear Sandy, just to let you know that we are thinking of you both. Wish that we could be closer to be able to offer more support.
With lots of love
Michele
I have just spoken to Sandy and he is being very brave as he always is! It is a shock at John's passing but he will be comforted no doubt by all the good thoughts.
Cherry
Sandy, We did'nt know John, but we are really sorry to hear of your loss....Sterkte vriend!
:-\
It will take time! The sun will still rise........
Dear Sandy
Just to let you know our thoughts are with you. Wish we could be with you.
Prayers and thoughts are with you.
Love Barbara,Susan and Stan
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As you will know now John didnt make it through the night and passed away at 3am
what can i say ...............sandy does appreciate every ones good wishes, and im sure youll all hear from him soon.
will pass on all your love to him.
Bev
Sandy, so sorry to hear about your loss, our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
With love from
Michele
Sandy
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
With Love from Richard & Debby
Thinking of you at this sad time. Love Stephen + Diana
Sandy
Sorry to hear about your loss. Know that you are in my prayers at this time. All strength to you.
Love
Yvette
our thoughts are with you boet,albeit we are miles apart,thoughts travel quick,take good care sandy,we are thinking of you and john and all who loved him,janet and bobby smith.
To my oranjemund cyberfamily .. thanks for the kind thoughts .. much appreciated .
There comes a time in life when we all have to grow up a bit more and say another good bye , its always hard and each time does not make it easier , but yes we learn to handle it differently each time .. Remember once again that we should appreciate each day and all the blessings we have in life especially our friends and family .. finally its not about how many breaths you take in your lifespan but how many times you have your breath taken away by the beauty and joys of our surroundings ..
Sandy
Sandy, Dianne Young and Ricky send their love and are thinking of you. She says she met John at your 50th and mentioned his lovely orchids.Her computer is down at the moment and she asked me to pass this message on to you
Once again thanks ...
Sandy,
I am sorry to hear the news. Sincere condolences from me and the family, my Mom would want me to include her condolences as well. Its always a shock, be strong we are all thinking of you.
Take care, and when you want to talk there are lots of us out here.
Sandy,
My condolences to you . . . prayers and thoughts are with you!!
Keith.
I have for the last few days dreaded the getting up . cos as the sun would rise bringing in a new day it would cut you loose from the healing sanctuary of your sleep to the realisation that your life is changed irrevocably from now on ... This morning I was woken up long before sunrise by a group of overenthuiastic birds singing in the garden really urging the sun to "get up and rise Now!! " The acceptance that no matter how a person is taken from us , no matter how cruel or unfair it may seem at times it is ultimately how life plays itself out and if one reflects carefully that is normally case , we all go when our time is played out . Like those overenthusiastic birds I have now made a pact with myself to try and urge each new day to come on as what is life ultimately about ? .. Living each day to its fullest possible potential .. I rest on those words ..
Sandy how brave and strong you sound, how difficult it must be to not recite "stop all the clocks" when that is how you must be feeling, all I can offer is ......
To see a world in a grain of sand
And a heaven in a wild flower
Hold infinity in the palm of your hand
And eternity in an hour
borrowed from William Blake
hour by hour until day by day.......................
spell of creation by kathleen raine is inspirational, for quiet moments.
Accepted in good grace .. wonderful words Ta >
Well here i sit on another timeline ... to the day a year since Johns memorial service .. I been in a lot of thought today .. different to last week sat , when I had the get together to celebrate his life .. today is my day of reflecting , thinking back , All I have is overwhelming feelings of gratitude for everything I have had so far in my life , remininces , my parents , my friends , my partner .. I have done well and been indeed blessed .. Today is not a bad day ,its a good one , cos I am allowing myself to get gently pissed and let my heart and emotions do what they should do and speak my truth openly , and no if anyones worried nothing maudlin or morbid .. once again birds are doing their thing in the garden , they with no promise of tomorrow are urging each day to be the best .. Facing today as I am and in this frame of mind and attitude is part of closure, as i said to Cherry today .. i will never forget ,, I was suffering from sympathy overload and seated myself apart in the chapel , she just quietly and matter of factly moved forward .. sat quietly next to me as if to say " no matter what I'm going to be close to you " quietly accepted and appreciated ... For me I'm wandering around my home .. sitting in the garden, sitting in the lounges, study etc and marvelling at what we got right together, again gratitude for I am surrounded by beauty .. all i can do is new layers to what is and was very good to me and for me .. and with these words I can close this timeline and move on forward from there .. I have a wonderful holiday to Thailand coming up soon and i can really rest body mind and soul and come back refreshed ...
giverose bighug
Here's to keep on celebrating you, your memories, and your future!
Hi Sandy, please forgive me for being so callous and discussing silly Citroens during this sad time in your life, I was careless in not reading this thread.
Life is so extremely short and one has to pick oneself up from these heartbreaking tests and trials God puts in our path from time to time. I hope there are many happy memories of John and he will no doubt continue to live on in your life even though he is no longer with us. I hope he is in a happy place.
Condolences and comfort from me and my family.
God bless.
Leon
Discussing silly Citroens ?? absolutely not so ... its always a pleasure to do so with a fellow afficionado .. as you observed .. I was just being frank and open about a year anniversary thing .. my words and thoughts can maybe help somebody when they find themselves in the same situation ... I was not sad instead celebrating my gratitude for all the good given to me in life and one of the souls instrumental in that happening read my words carefully and you will see that .. ... so yes LHM fluid is alien blood ??
As you will read below ,,
3 years on ... Amazing how many people remember ,,, The SMS messages and calls from friends today saying their thoughts with me on this anniversary day of this change in direction of life thrust upon me ,,, Most kind and appreciated
So decided to revisit this posting ,,, to put a kind of closure message ...
To say it and what I have repeated over and over to anyone in pain of loss ,
" it gets better with time only if you want it to "
Its all about personal choice ... I can in good conscience say today whenever I see someone in pain of loss " Hell man , looking back reflect , was it that bad for me then ?? " and can say " Yes it was " .. I went through many emotional ups and downs ,, shed many a tear , my progress at times being totally sidetracked by a memory that would suddenly flit through my mind .. but yes always 2 steps forward , and the occasional one backward ,, it's all part of the process . Where I get sideswiped mostly is at family get togethers , a gathering of good life friends , or going to a memorial service , realizing that none of us are forever ,, it just opens doors again ... again its part of the process and as long as one keeps the intent of ....
" only if you want it to " and take each sideswipe as a moment to release emotion , to just let it flow ,, and then to stand up tall afterwards , then one ultimately moves forward ... I am very much there .. John has become now very much in my mind " a fellow traveler in time " each of us on a different journey , but with the memory of what was good safely locked away in our hearts , the time will come when the anniversaries are not relevant anymore as time frames become irrelevant in the big scheme of things in this universe , our lives as big as they are for us are a blip , albeit each an important blip in the big scheme of things ... That's the strength I want to pass on to everyone ,,,
Acceptance ,Gratitude , Honour yourself , Honour your Creator ... be in awe of the creation , be aware that you can be a co- creator by passing on the good ,,, the rest all falls into place ....
Below a song that was a favourite of John .. its from Mike Batt Schitzophonia album and strangely enough was played this evening on the radio ... The song is called .... walls of the world ..
The sun is only shining like it always does,
But I never noticed it in the sky before.
And you don't need to worry, 'cause I need your love, my friend.
There's a strong kind of feeling when I know you're near
Nobody alive can take it away from me;
And I feel like I've known you for a thousand years
Bring it out into the light.
'Cause I think I'm gonna write it on the walls of the world,
So everyone will know today the love I hold for you.
I will write it on the walls of the world,
So that the sun won't fade away the words I say to you,
I love you
And I know I'm not a loser when I'm on my own,
I could be miles away in another land,
And it keeps me together when I'm far from home,
I won't keep it out of sight.
And I think I'm gonna write it on the walls of the world,
So everyone will know today the love I hold for you
I will write it on the walls of the world
So that the sun won't fade away the words I say to you,
I love you
Wow, MIke Batt , walls of the world, Nice one Sandy, hope you got through the day alright......
Hey Sandy, sorry i only saw and read this post now. I am sorry to hear about your loss and do believe that time heals itself. Just keep your focus as the Creator will Comfort you Always!!!
Great post Sandy... meaningful and appreciated. bighug
Only the good die young. I remember Sandy he's brother and mother well.She worked in the main retail store. Lovely family.Condolences ..Julian
Hi Sandy, my family did know yours back in the day. I'm sympathetic towards your loss, as it is never easy, but as you say you have all these above cyberfriends with their comforting words. Be strong and remember the good always. Fond Regards Courtenay van Eeden (Ahrens) and Freddie Ahrens
Thanks Courtenay ... I remember at one stage when I was in Windhoek on army camp and in a bit of a situation ,, I was taken in by your Mom and Dad ... I remember the kindness ,,,
Sandy
SO AMAZING HOW TIME PASSES .. YET PEOPLE REMEMBER AND GIVE LITTLE GEMS ... I RELATE A STORY FROM TODAY PASTED FROM A MAIL GIVEN TO A DEAR FRIEND .. THERE ARE SPECIAL WORDS HERE AND YES THE CIRCUMSTANCES GIVEN UNDER .. AND YES THE PATIENCE OF SOMEONE WHO CARES WAITING FOR THE OPPORTUNE MOMENT . THATS WHAT MAKES THE DIFFS .. THIS PASSAGE CAN RELATE TO ANYONE WE MISS THAT HAS WALKED LIFE PATH WITH US .. I GIVE IT WITH THE LOVE PASSED ON ...>>>>>> BELOW THE MESSAGE TO A FRIEND AND ATTACHED THE SPECIAL PIECE OF PAPER ..
quite a week .. in many respects .. me finally been able to relax .. the "dayjob" work started spinning for now , the raw material problems at bay .. the shop picking up turnover ,,..now have been taking afternoons off at least .. do a bit of me time . and catch up on the books and all the other shyt that will bring me into tax and other compliance .. we had a fair day and at the end Linda our chef /cook/ friend who has stuck by us and through living with us knows so much about where we come from ,, at the end of the day Paul had gone off to see his very ill friend Lynn ,, we having a glass of wine on the balcony , she says " I think the time is right to give this to you " its a piece of paper ,, slightly yellowed at the folds.. she tells me the night before the 4th anniversary of Johnno's passing she was going through some books she was unpacking shaking each one for bookmarks etc and out falls this piece of paper with this message on it .. she said she was hesitant to give it to me on the day , instead waiting for the moment .. and today was it .. so it was given to me .. i have to share it .. I think it applies in more than me but in so many cases .. take note of the second passage ..about the joy .. further more the last passage line ..
I share this with you ..
Wow! Sandy, bet you got goosebumps when you read that!
Indeed so ,, and your goosebumps Michael ?? the universe drops thing for us through any means ,, and thus was special and hence the need to share it ,,, this is for all who have had loss and still have tricky moments ...
thnx 3d smiles(281)
Well the timeline passed on wed 20th , 5 years on and pleased to say keeping the ethos of ' it gets better with time only if you want it to " has applied , not that I will ever forget , I'm sure anyone in connect with their soul realises that pain anniversaries thereof are imprinted into our cellular and when the time approaches we experience pain again , I did the " where do you want to be ? " talk to myself , it revealed to me that I been adding the layers to keep me busy , so busy that I have not granted meself enough time for ME ,, so I move on again in realisation that I must (and indeed subconsciously ) slowly withdrawing and trying to make the space for more of ME again ,,, I say again smiley-hug008.gif for all that have been there for me ,, the life adventure journey continues ,,,
3d smiles(281) bighug drinking-41 xxx
Cheers Sandy! Sun still gonna rise every morning just like it always does..... even long after we are all gone....
Just amazed that 5 years has gone by so quickly.....
allgood
Too True Michael ... Mike Batt , the sun is only shining like it always does .. its for us to notice and acknowledge it ,,
I raced to arrive - I raced to survive - And guess what ? I lost it all . I found that only relations last. Therefor Sandy , .. Please make time for yourself and your loved ones
Tonight 6 years on ,, I quote , and Michael reason for divesting as well .. its all good 16_1_231 facebook link as well off to bed me at peace ,,
Tonight 6 years on taken away from me at time of Ying Yang energy exchange 03:00 in the morning , my petitions to universe to save you answered with " you life is about to change" , indeed so it has . A road of learning to deal with loss , then helping others to deal with loss . Then adding layers to my life to keep me stimulated till the events that have come where I now take steps to simplify my life once again as I know I have lost contact with my core , a powerful potential that I may not waste . John Arthur Savage Reid you remain irreplaceable . From our Halcyon days when the world was our oyster and life was carefree till the time when we could reconnect
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