I will never understand

[Dalene Steenkamp (Coetzee)]

It is just too hard for me to understand how a young woman can gain about 30kgs in weight within 1 year after getting married and having a baby. 

The most stupid answer you get is  :  I am this fat after the baby.  Sorry  -  explain to me again.  Did you have twins and ate one?  Children do not make you fat  -  end of story.  No kid can ever make you fat as in the gaining of 30kgs.  Yes, you do gain weight while pregnant, but....

I saw this again today and was totally knocked out for a duck.  The girl is only 23.  She used to be a little plump, but not really fat.  I saw her with her baby of 4mnths old totday.  I could not believe my eyes, and yes  -  that was like her second sentence to me after we greeted  :  I have gotten so fat after the baby.

The only expanation I can give to this is:  doing to little and eating too much, or else there must be a serious medical problem.

I know  -  stone me, for I am being harsh, but what infuriorates me is the fact that these women blame the kids and not themselves and then they just don't care anymore and do not look after themselves.  Let me rather stop right here, before I put my foot right into something where I cannot get it out again.

[georgswa (Georg Ruf) (RIP)]

Hi Dalene

I can and will not judge on that case, but.....

The metabolism of that girl was pre-programmed to put on fat cells....more and more.....

I am, very fortunate not to put on weight due to that fact

Of course she will have to slow down on eating and start getting excercise, easy said, difficult to follow.

Let me make the comparison that way:

People attack me cause of smoking, they say, why dont you just stop, easy for them since they are none smokers and not addicted to it like me

Now lets say the same to that girl, easy for me....since i weigh only 60 kg

Same applies to drinking, tell them, just stop !!!!

It does not work like that

So overweight and underweight ( Lady Di )

Smoking

Drinking

is like addictions and of course in the case of overweight that can be herited

I dont have an answer for all 3 problems, but i feel sorry for the young women

But i know people that have problems like above they preach to me what to do.... thats the funny part

Smokers will always find an excuse why not quit smoking

Eaters will eat until they have health issuses same as underweight people

You can never win them all LOL

I see, you are more the light weight type,

bet you, if some peolple ate as much as i do, they would become total overweight

Lucky me, one less problem LOL

[SandyB]

This  is a difficult call . me blessed with high metabolism .. so i can eat well .. whether i excercise or not was the case .. mother time is slowly  catching up with me and yes my metabolism will slow down ,  maybe yes .. maybe not ,  but I know that I am used to all my life being a light person not encumbered with any excess  weight ..  so i must get back into a light excercise program ..  for people that have a problem I have empathy and honestly encourage anyone i see making the effort .. Dalene how many people have you seen in your lifespan that " let themselves go" after they get married ??  pretty much the same as I picked up weight after the baby .. its as though there is the perception  that there is  no need  to try get back to what we were .. the extremes are the  starving skinny brigade or those that indulge in excersise to the  extreme as well ..  so darn difficult and I always  do my damndest not to go into  judgement mode ..  or compare to my  life experience .. we are all made differently  and should accept it as  so . but yes at the end of the line we can always be better .. ??/ My 2 $ worth .

[georgswa (Georg Ruf) (RIP)]

BMI = Body Mass Index today a recognized indication of normal weight

Google and find out what it should be

Here the formula to calculate it, i use my values

@ Sandy.  What is your BMI



         Weight in Kg
    ----------------------                60
    Hight in m x hight in m           -------------  =  BMI about 21,2
                                             1,68 x 1,68

[SandyB]

Georg somethng wrong with formula ...  me 175 and now about 67 Kg . ... ???? check formula again or maybe me   

[georgswa (Georg Ruf) (RIP)]

@ Sandy

May be my formula is screwed

Here a calculator result for you

Your BMI = 21,9

[SandyB]

So its all Ok ... doc says a healthy weight .. so i accept it as so ..

[georgswa (Georg Ruf) (RIP)]

Definitly OK

Yours and mine, we lucky buggers banjo

[Diana Rudd (Boehme)]

I'm eeerrrr eeemmm inclined to agree with Daleen here. Except that I'd say it took me a year after each of my children to regain my weight. So lets give the poor girl that ,BUT 30kg is an awfull lot of weight to put on during pregnancy. Then again half the dads carry  that kind of excess weight with having being pregnant.
As for the BMI I think ones age should be taken into account here as well, not that older people shouldn't be thin.
About 5years ago I decided I would weigh exactly what I weighed the day I got married 63kg I lost 20kg and reached that gaol in 8mnths. Yet I looked awfull,many paople asked if I was ill and one even thought I may have aids. I'm now plumply in the middle. My point being that at 50 you will not look the same at the same weight as you looked at 20. Me 5'8" and 78kgs.     thesse are 8kgs each so that makes me ooooooh thin.    sexydance

[Dalene Steenkamp (Coetzee)]

On the first formula my BMI  =  40,...

On the second formula my BMI  =  20,09

My height is 1,60 and my weight is 54kg's    -  I think the second formula might be more correct.


I did not mean to judge this girl I was talking about.  It just scares the crap out of me when I see young girls not taking care of themselves, when they know the end results of overeating and not doing enough exercise.  The opposite is also very very scary, like you say, Sandy.  Girls starving themselves to death to be skin an bone.  Sometimes that even looks worse than being a little overweight.  Yes, I also am aware that the gaining of weight may sometimes be due to pshycological problems  -  the eat when you are not happy, eat when you are happy, eat when others are unhappy etc etc cyndrome.  What kills me is the fact that they blame the baby for their weight.  I am also not saying that overweight of even fat people are not acceptable to me.  I know a lot of really fat people who has killer personalities and they are very good friends indeed.  I also know a lot of fat women who are extremely beautifull and look afterthemselves very well with regards to dressing, wearing the right make-up, has the best haircuts, have their nails done etc.    

I suppose I am also lucky where it comes to my weight, but then I must admit that I am still very active and also  -  I am not the biggest eater in the world.  I might tend to shift to the side where I stop eating when I'm stressed up or very busy or unhappy and that is also very wrong.  Sometimes I go without food for nearly 2 days in a row, and only when my blood sugar levels drop seriously low and I start getting dizzy, then I realize that I had not eaten.  Pshycological?  maybe also ....  I don't really know.  So, for all I know that young girl may look at me and think:  -  anorexic ou tannie!   ha

[georgswa (Georg Ruf) (RIP)]

He he he Diana, i see you are still in the imperial system

My estimate is that you are taller then me so 63 kg is very good

And you look so sexy  cowgirl cowgirl

[georgswa (Georg Ruf) (RIP)]

Yes, i will delete the first formula, its wrong

The second is OK, i judged right with you dalene, its many factors.

Stress, in movement, smoking, eat, correct eat and age play a role

Looks like Sandy Diana you and my are the more skinny ones.

I could still loose 1-2 kg since my bone structure is very light, so the BMI is only a guide

I fell sorry for that girl, up is easy, down can be hell 

[Diana Rudd (Boehme)]

Im plump Daddy G plump 78kg's with the 

[georgswa (Georg Ruf) (RIP)]

Diana, you look sexy, as long as you feel well, what the heck......

I said, increasing weight is very easy, coming down can be hell 

[georg ruf jr.]

Do you think you're being punished or being a woman  Diana?