School Starts 2Morrow!

Diana Rudd (Boehme) · January 16, 2008, 02:28:03 PM

No they don't,or you get "The boys a man now his probably 'BUSY' "

georg ruf jr. · January 16, 2008, 02:33:30 PM

Don't be to sure about your opinion.
They're so like and so like.
catchball

Diana Rudd (Boehme) · January 16, 2008, 02:48:51 PM

Lost you Georg???????????

barb (Fry) · January 16, 2008, 04:23:15 PM

Hello, Diane and Delia

Yes yes yes, the pain of seperation that we are required to endure is something too terrible when it comes to mother/teenager stage.

I have just come out of a very rebellious stage with my son, who started college this year, in the UK (he's 16) a baby in my eyes, having to make life decisions and demanding that he is man enough. I always say that he's on a leash (you know the one's that come with like 10m length) and I've just let it out to it's maximum length. I could and will and do still reign him in occasionally but have to let him out to experiment no matter how difficult it is. This has allowed to him to taste the fruits and face mistakes if necessary.

It's still hard, but thank god I'm still allowed to phone text and check up.

Michael Alexander · January 17, 2008, 05:05:32 AM

So as really really really old and experienced parents, would you say that girls are easier to bring up than boys?

Delia · January 17, 2008, 06:16:05 AM

it's been said that boys are easier to bring up than girls - we tend to be more protective over daughters 'cos there's a feeling there's more out there that can hurt them than boys............there's a tendancy in life to think that boys can look after themselves more than girls can...........

Diana, you've got a mixture of both......what do you think......you can speak from personal experience?

Mike, getting back to Diana pacing & worrying while her 26 yr old son's out..............now had that been a daughter, dad would've probably been pacing up and down right next to Diana, every 2 minutes looking out the window to see if she's home yet........dads tend to be more protective over their "little" girls than their boys.........again, that thinking that we've been indoctrinated with to believe that boys can look after themselves.......

georg ruf jr. · January 17, 2008, 06:33:48 AM

Quote from: Michael Alexander on January 17, 2008, 05:05:32 AM
So as really really really old and experienced parents, would you say that girls are easier to bring up than boys?

You can take me by my word. That's true!

Michael Alexander · January 17, 2008, 07:17:54 AM

IF that had been a daughter, she would'nt be out at the age of 26..... we can discuss it at her 40th Birthday....

Delia · January 17, 2008, 08:15:41 AM

LOL - sometimes i wish i could chain caryn to her bedposts till she's 30 - then again how are they gonna learn to handle life's lessons if we don't let them experience them - as barbs said, gotta know when to pull that leash in or let it out - it's just so damn difficult knowing exactly how much rope to give them.

mike, re your kid starting grade 1 yesterday - enjoy the time now when your kids still allow you to hold their hand up the school driveway and are even happy for you to hang around while they're settling in - it's over all too soon. yesterday i was told, not asked, to drop Caryn on the corner of the school road & she'll walk to the school gates - it's just not cool to be seen with mom dropping you off in high school...........that's when the lump in my throat appeared remembering how she was only too happy to have me there on her 1st day in grade 1. but, i know it's all part of the growing up years - i was exactly the same...........if she can be with her friends as opposed to the family, that's where she'll be......altho' i do insist that she spends family birthdays, xmas, etc. with us......she's happy to tho for those special occassions so i can still count myself lucky.

Michael Alexander · January 17, 2008, 08:48:33 AM

Delia, stop it... you're making me morbid...... My 2 girls are always gonna be my 2 little girls, no matter how old they are.... their boyfriends better watch out for me...

Delia · January 17, 2008, 09:11:22 AM

mike, whenever i start feeling morbid re the situation i try and keep in mind how i was as a teenager - the source of many, or probably all of my mom's gray hairs - i was exactly the same - just not cool to hang with the folks when there's more exciting things happening around the corner with the buddies. but you're right, no matter how old she gets, caryn will always be my baby.........i've been told by many to have that shotgun close by............but i'll wait a while, caryn's told me her guy friends are shit scared of me..........suits me fine
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SandyB · January 17, 2008, 09:50:23 AM

Cold comfort I gave my mom .. They were on holiday at the same time as me .. I was Toering and H.... ring around the country , anyhow Our paths crossed at Ians place in Kempton Park .. they ended up there at the same time I was dossing over for a few days .. anyhow off I went the one evening to the City of gold .. re-appeared the next day at 11 in the morning .. now remember there were no cellphones in those days etc .. I got this worried look and lots of questions from mom .. My cold comfort was .. " Mom if something bad happens to me you will hear about it .. If nothing bad happens to me then you will not hear about it . " she had to accept that .. looking back think I also promoted a good few grey hairs on her head ...........

Diana Rudd (Boehme) · January 17, 2008, 01:12:56 PM

I found my son easier to bring up But I worry about him more than the girls. After all girls have a bit of savy,boys are boys hey. They tend to do stupid things. The girls have their Boyfriend/husband to look out for them but it's your son that does the looking out. you can still check on your 28 yr old daughter,the boy would be made to look like a woes.My girls also tell me most things.

So from a worring point of view I think girls are easier.

Michael Alexander · January 19, 2008, 07:45:01 AM

"My girls also tell me most things." ..... and there be the problem.... most!

Dalene Steenkamp (Coetzee) · January 19, 2008, 08:16:19 AM

Yeah - should be "ALL", but never is .......

Don't really know. Each has his / her own set of problems , depending on the stage they are in or the situation. At times I think my son is easier, then at other times I think my daughter is easier. THEN - at times I am very sorry that I did not "kill them with love" when they were babies, for then I am sure to do it at that moment. Read a very funny thing : Mother of teenage kids - "Now I know exactly why some animals eat their young!"

Not so bad - mostly I am very proud of my kids, don't have loads of trouble with them, have good and open communication with them, they do good at school and in tech, etc. Not saying that they have wings and will just rise to heaven in a second - they are normal kids with normal personalities who do normal kid stuff, that include the things like smashing the bakkie into the gate post, telling lies about homework that has not been done, stealing my meat from the freezer to go have a braai with their tjommas out in the veld and then NOBODY knows what has happened to my steaks or braai tjops, ..........

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