Billy the Bully

[JohanB]

Oh, don't worry: nobody bullies me anymore.

I was an easy target because I was a skinny little kid, perfect for picking on. A random beating now and then doesn't bother me, but I saw this Billy throw a cock-eyed girl's thick glasses out of a moving schoolbus just for the fun of it. I saw her panic, cry and struggle to get past him to stop the bus. Even as a small kid I was feeling sorry for her. I saw him beat other small kids into tears. Many times. For what? Why? How do you think those kids felt? This Billy and his pack-dogs were out LOOKING for kids to bully, every day. I found him killing seagull chicks with his bare hands at the yacht club, throwing them onto the cement in laughter, watching them die slow deaths. I saw him beat a friend of mine WITH A STICK that left blue hales on his legs, just for fun.

Don't for a second think this is just about me. Being bullied at a young age, and surviving it makes the saying true: what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.

I don't need physical revenge to 'make myself a better person'. I'm well past that stage.

So no, I guess I will always feel this way until I have the opportunity to tell this bully to his face what he did to those little kids, and how it felt.

And if he doesn't admit and repent, well, then I guess I can't say what will happen.

To all who has such a lot of advice about moving on, go out into the world and find a kid that is suffering at the hands of a bully, and go and tell him your advice. Go and tell him to 'move on', to 'accept his fate', and see if you can explain to him how it will make him 'a better person'.

I'll only accept advice from someone who was bullied at a young age, thank you. I am not a bitter person, contrary to what people might believe. When I was bigger, I used to get in fights and then realize that I was actually being a bully. I'd apologize, or take a beating as punishment. Being bullied has thought me how to distinguish between a fight, and being a bully.

Who here can say Billy the Bully does not deserve a chance to explain himself?

[Carl Wrbka]

I agree Johan, the only way to stop a bully is to stand up to him. We had a couple in Centaurus during my time there, and found the best method was to break them down psychologically. I remember the one guy broke down in tears one day in class. After some councelling he sorted himself out and actually became a good friend.

[Michael Alexander]

... and then the topic moves to those nutters in American highschool's   .. The Trenchcoat gang.....

[Carl Wrbka]

Ahh those two idiots. Eric and Dylan. I think it was more a case of one screw too many loose in their situation...lol

[georg ruf jr.]

Standing up to a bully is always important and the only way. Of course. It's just how to do.
To me there's a difference between he situation a kid is in, or if it's something I'm looking back on in my childhood. In that case I must see that I've matured. And there are more possebilities of coping with my past.
I'm sure, if you take on this guy today and he hasn't learned you're going to be mentaly stronger than him. The rest will come without great effort. If people do not learn how o behave in society, they'll always land up next to society. Isn't that revenge enough?
Now imagine you get a cold because it was raing. Are you going to complain about the rain for the rest of your life? No. You'll be wearing the protection you need and you'll feel better. That's the atitude I mean.
By the way. I menioned in an earlier post, we've all our story to tell. Carl made the first move. I was bullied enough in my life too. I've learnt to protect myself and try to accept my past as my past. Most people I've met in life I'll never see again.
Again Johann. How old are you?

[Diana Rudd (Boehme)]

Johan obviously feels very strongly about Billy the bully, so if seeing Billy face to face again helps,then why not.

[Carl Wrbka]

Isn't it amazing how jnr's English improves when he's having fun... :emot19:

[Diana Rudd (Boehme)]

Thats our Jnr.     :emot26:

[Michael Alexander]

Did;nt Billy break his leg on the roundabout at OPS and was in plaster for about a year? Susan / Pat?

[Susan Kintscher (Lineker)]

the Billy that Johan B is refering to is not my brother, he was in std 5 in 1985....
Billy did fall off a round about in the grade 1 area and had to be hospitalized for two year, yes it is correct, two years.
He then had to teach himself to walk again and he moved around alot on a skateboard.
JohanB how old are you ? so that we can find your billy, Was it not Billy Cowley????

[JohanB]

I think I mentioned in one of the first posts I was in St 5 in '87, so that'll make me... just let me get all the fingers and toes out, almost 34. (I don't know if other guys are like this too, but if someone surprises me with the question of 'how old are you' then I swear I have to back-calculate to my birth year!)

I get the feeling someone is going to say 'you're still young, your youthful anger shows' or 'you're too old to be caring about childhood bullies' and so on, but in a way, I feel oblidged to stand up for the young boy (that being the young me) of years gone by.

If I had bumped into this bully long ago, believe me, this matter would have been settled, but when I left O'mund, incidentially in '87, it was the last time I ever saw him.

So it's not a life-long grudge I hold, it's just that to this day I never had the opportunity to see for myself if this Billy had come to his senses in the meantime, or if he is still the childhood bully today. If it's the latter, I'll gladly tell him what I think of him, and then I can only hope he'll take a swing...

[Michael Alexander]

I got smacked by the cowley kid, blonde hair guy.... His nickname was "chickens"... outside the youth CLub it was.... and to this day I still do not know why..... he just walked up to me and threw a punch.... was'nt even talking to him or about him.... actually did'nt even know the guy..... I think his name was Billy?

[Cherry (Alcock)]

Can't remember any other Billy's other than Billy Lineker and my brother Bill; neither of them fit the age (Std 5 year) so it's still an open question for you Johan.  Don't remember the Cowley guy you've all mentioned but a possibility.

[georg ruf jr.]

@Diana: Face o face is just perfect. My problem is revenge. Something I've mentioned in several topics before. Zimbabwe, Rape in OM ect.
@Carl Thanks hey, I'm trying hard lol.  But serious. I've picked up a lot to thze past and learning additionaly. Someimes I catch myself thinking in English. Somehing I stopped so many years ago. At times I even starting writing in "English" when I'm supposed to be writing in German haha.

Okay, I'm of the topic.
Come on Johann. How old are you?

[Diana Rudd (Boehme)]

Come now Boy Georg, you thinking about boobs again, the man said he was 34.
@ The Moderators....where's my icon? I can't find it,am I blind?